SO one fine night, after I was judged guilty of being an irresponsible husband for the guzillionth time( n for the inexperienced ones- when there is such a trial goin on, us poor husbands have only one option- to plead guilty if we wanna see peace return to our home :-)) i and my wife had a truce of sorts and were watching this new serial recommended by mutual friends- an Indian version of '24' series that's so famous these days..
N In the very first episode I find out that the protagonist - who is the head of anti terrorist unit -is a 'hapless husband' himself!! This poor fellow was a head of India's anti-terrorist organization, but in front of his wife and teenage daughter, he was absolutely defenceless!
Here's what I saw- the guy is obviously doin such a good thing for his country, right?! but instead of being proud of him, his wife and daughter hurl mean things (which by the way hurt more than real bullets) at him when he gets an emergency call from his office in the middle of his wife's b'day party... Well one can understand the behaviour of a teenage daughter but our better half being so berating is something that hurts the most !
The wife and daughter accuse him of not caring enough for his family when he has to go to protect his country in the middle of the night.
In stead of wishing the love of her life the very best of luck n to take care, the mrs. Squarely blames her husband for all their daughters problems!! I mean is it me alone here or someone else there who thinks there's some seriously disturbing trend here which has become quite common!!
Because this is seen so often in our lives too... I m Sure many of those reading this blog r happily married ( believe it or not I am too!:-)). Because we r strong more often than not, we end up being punch bags.. Well ladies , we too have heart! And study shows as good as urs if Not bigger!
We too feel bad as much as u do! N while u r criticising us without valid reason, we are seriously hurt by you lethal weapon- the lashing Tongue!
While the poor guy was tryin to figure out who's trying to kill the Prime Minister, his daughter runs away to a silly party right from under the mother's nose- n what does the mother do? She phones up her husband and tells him that he cares more about his work tuan his daughter!! I mean, lady! Give him a break! That poor fellow is a hero n serving his country,but his wife , instead Of standing by his side is berating him at every Possible opportunity !
Had he been in the arms of a mistress / alcoholic, his wife's anger would ve been justified but this trend we see Here Is a very disturbing one indeed.
All i wish is to draw attention to the fact that It has become an uncomfortable routine nowadays for our better halves to make us husbands feel guilty of several things we do, like our jobs ... Even if they r selfless ones - like a dr who has to attend am emergency at midnight or this fellow who works in an anti terrorist organisation, protecting his country! My wife's argument when I brought this up? Well he shouldn't ve married if he wanted to serve his country!!?? Well -- since shes the one who is having a problem , shouldn't she have thought before marrying him!! This Blame game in which we the husbands r always the cuprits needs to stop.
